Confident, happy & free

That’s how you were meant to be.

 

Discover the untapped courage and peace inside you.
(Even if you don’t believe it’s there… yet.)

You deserve to believe in yourself and be happy with who you are.

You have everything you need inside you to do that.

My name is Aili. I’m here to help you see the light.

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self-acceptance

self-confidence

self-trust

self-love

self-worth

 
 
The source is within.

More energy.

Mental clarity.

Better sleep.

A brighter mood.

 

It’s amazing what Kundalini yoga can do.

“Like a magical reset button.”

–Review of one of my free guided meditations on Insight Timer

That’s what meditation can be like – even if you’ve never done it before or only have a few minutes.

Where limiting beliefs come from

I’ve noticed a simple pattern that has a complicated effect on our lives:

  1. Something happens.
  2. We make an assumption about what that event means – about ourselves, about others, about the world and how we fit within it.
  3. We live our lives as if that assumption is true.

To put this into context, here’s an example from my own life:

  1. In my final year of high school, I submitted a piece of science fiction for a short story assignment. My English teacher asked if I was ESL and gave me my first D (I was a straight A student).
  2. I started to believe that my writing sucked, that my teacher was right, that it would be safer not to write (and risk rejection), and ultimately that I couldn’t write.
  3. I went into engineering (where everything clearly had a right or wrong answer) and ended up in the business world as a management consultant after that.

To sum it up: A single assignment. One creative risk. A presumptuous question from a person in a position of authority (“Did you just transfer to regular English from ESL? Oh, I thought because of your name that maybe…”). One crushed ego. A bad grade. Major life decisions (education + career). Potentially a lifetime of me telling myself and others, “I can’t write.”

All this in spite of the fact that my sister’s been telling me, “You should be a writer!” since I was 12.

It’s kinda crazy how that can happen.

The problem here isn’t what happened. It isn’t the fact that my teacher didn’t like the short story, or that I got a bad grade.

It’s that I interpreted that experience in a way that was disempowering for me and started to believe something that wasn’t necessarily true.

Even worse, I used it to justify not doing something that I enjoy. (To be honest, I thought my short story was awesome. I loved writing it. I had never been so excited or scared to turn something in!)

Life is constantly moving forward. Things are going to happen that we may or may not like.

But how we interpret those events is an entirely different thing; the meaning we make from an experience is entirely up to us.

When something doesn’t feel good, it’s easier to jump to conclusions to explain our discomfort than to actually face the discomfort itself.

That’s where limiting beliefs come from: the assumptions we make about our experience of life.

Limiting beliefs cloud our perception of what’s real and what’s possible. They’re aptly named because they dictate how we limit ourselves.

We all have events in life that make us question what we believe we’re capable of.

The real question is this: Will we let those experiences define us and make our decisions for us?